|Christian Blogger Mom - Kathleen McKinley|
Yes you read that right - Parents are to blame for their children being bullied, beaten and killed.
And those people behind the It Gets Better campaign! Murderers! You're all murderers! Here. Let her explain:
Today,while waiting at the orthodontist's office for my son, I read a People Magazine article on other teen suicides due to bullying, most of them gay. One was a 13 year old boy.
So, now I'm just mad.
Bullied to death via suicide!
Am I mad at the hateful mean kids who bully and tease these teens? You bet I am. But I am just as mad at the idiotic adults who force our adult views on kids, and pull them into our adult world long before they are mature enough to handle it. The 13 year old that killed himself told his Mom he was gay. She said she already knew and hugged him. She said she just assumed that everyone else would be as accepting as she was.
Really? Have you been around teenagers? They are cruel and mean. They constantly tear each other down. It was bad when I was a teenager, I can only imagine what it's like now. No, I don't have to imagine how it is now. This is how it is now. Why in the world would you give teenagers a REASON to tease you? Oh, yes, because the adults tell you to embrace who you are, the only problem? Kids that age are just discovering who they are. They really have no idea yet. The adults tell you to "come out," when what we should be telling them is that sex is for adults, and there is plenty of time for figuring out that later. Figure out yourself first. Focus on the kind of person you want to be, not the kind of person you want to sleep with. A 13 year old should not be building his life around his sexual orientation. He should be being A KID ...
We have sexualized our kids with movies, music, and culture, and now we have viruses like HPV running rampant before they even go to college. We should all be ashamed of ourselves. [...]Yes, just move on to the back of the bus, everything will be fine. (Edit comment) I bet you a million dollars if it were Christian students being bullied, she wouldn't be advising them to hide their religion.
It's killing them.
Unfortunately, children will find reasons to bully other kids. And, most of the kids who get called fag or gay aren't actually gay. Someone will decide the kid is gay and they gang up on him or her. What are you going to do about the kid with immutable traits, the boy who is just a little "feminine" and can't make himself macho? Ms. McKinley's arguments are specious and her "solution" is not a solution at all.
Telling children to keep their personal lives private--which, of course, is code for some ignorant straight people saying "do whatever the hell they want, so long as gay kids suppress their identity in every public moment of every day." That might have been how it was done 20 years ago, but, the difference then was that the gay kids committed suicide quietly, alone, and at a higher rate than they do now.
The only solution is changing the way kids treat others and the way they treat themselves, and that doesn't happen with dismissal, shame, and a total lack of visibility.